Monday, September 21, 2020

I want to give up on Weight Loss

 I am struggling with weight loss!  Boy am I struggling!   I came back and weighed in last week and I was all strong and mighty!  I had managed a mini vacation with a maintain.  I was invincible!  I was superhuman!  I was on top of the world....because seriously...a maintain at the beach is amazing!   I had great plans for the week!  I was going to nail the week!

I was going to .....that's the phrase you need to hear.  I was going to. 

All of my plans fell away.   I was super tired.  I had the monthly ick.  It was just a week and a half long.   My eating was actually in line!  I swear!  It was!  I tracked every bite!  My calories were sitting at around 1400 to 1600 calories.  That should be a loss!   

But it wasn't a loss.  It wasn't even a maintain! one point I was 6 pounds up!   I actually ended up with a 3 pound gain. And let me tell you, I am so discouraged!  I feel totally helpless.  I feel like giving up because this journey is darn hard!

I'm not giving up....but I honestly don't know what to do at the moment.  Vacation is coming up and it is so difficult to not just say 'I'm giving up until after vacation."  But I know that I can do a fair amount of damage in those weeks and then vacation on top of that would and could be disastrous!!!!!   So right now until I figure this out.....I'm just hanging tight!


Vickie said...

I can’t remember if I have posted these three tests for you before, probably I have. I firmly believe that you are someone (like me) who has to look at macros, cannot just count calories. Not saying low carb, yes saying proportional carbs.

Test one-

If you are calorie sensitive:

had a normal body weight when younger but slowly gained weight after age 30

presently overweight but by LESS than 25 pounds

normal appetite and get hungry at meals times

few if any food cravings

maintained same basic eating habits all of your life (good habits)

eat 2 meals per day

gained a certain amount of extra body weight by seem to have tapered off (not continued to gain more and more weight) (less then 25 pounds TOTAL)

you check off few or NONE of the symptoms on test two.

Vickie said...

Test two -

Symptoms of Carb intolerance:


fatigue and exhaustion

faintness, dizziness, cold sweats, shakiness, weak spells


drowsiness, especially after meals or in midafternoon


disestive disturbances with no apparent cause



needless worry

mental consuion

rapid pulse, especially after eating certain foods

muscle pains

antisocial behavior

overly enotional crying spells

lack of sex drive

leg cramps and blurred vision

shortlness of breath, sighing and excess yawning

cravings for starch and sugar rich food

Vickie said...

Test three -

you are more than 25 pounds over weight

you have had a tendency to be overweight all your life

you have been overweight since you were a child

you have a poor appetite and tend to skip meals

you have food cravings that temporarily go away when starchy or sugary foods are eaten

there are foods that you feel you absolutely could NOT do without

your waist is bigger than your hips

you checked most or all of the items on the test two.

Vickie said...

I took a class long ago that started with that series of tests. There were people on the class who were calorie sensitive. There were people who were carb sensitive. I was on the later group and had no idea there was a difference. There is a big difference.

Iowabovine said...

Vickie has good advice...dump the sugar and white breads. NOW. Eat IF for 18 hours. ALL THE TIME. Continue your exercise. You will see results. You must lose the mindset of "...until vacation..." or "...for a month..."; each day is a chance of victory in itself. Visualization is a great motivator too.

SANRDJ said...

It's so beyond frustrating, isn't it? I feel your pain but if what you are doing is not working, you have to change it up. That might mean doing as Vickie said and not calorie counting anymore but instead looking at your macros. Plus not all calorie counting apps/programs are the same. Some over estimate calories and some under estimate. My advice to you would be to look at the types of food you are eating. Maybe the foods you are having, although healthy, tend to be high on the GI index which keeps your metabolism low and prevents you from dropping the weight. Ie. Certain fruits are so high on the GI index they affect me like candy affects me. A banana is almost equal to a piece of chocolate cake, at least in my world.

Holidays/vacations etc can ruin a good diet, but we have to learn to eat a certain way regardless of whether we are on vacation or at the beach etc. It's a life change. It's hard... I know it!! When you start seeing the results, you will forget about the sacrifices or at least think they are worth it. You can do this! You have done it just might have to tackle it in a different way this time and it might take some trial and error to find the right equation for you.

Tiffany said...

I wish you luck figuring this out but dont give up because youre worth it and so is your health

peppylady (Dora) said...

MY weight been up and down 3 pounds. I been looking joining Overeaters Anonymous (OA) I was doing T.O.P.S a very helpful group. But with the covid I just don't feel going to any group gathering. So I heard OA is on zoom. I need support. Not pushing anyone group. I feel support is a big thing to pushing any bad habit out of any life. Like AA is for the alcoholics.

Anonymous said...

Seriously? You are my twin on this journey. I had the same gain this week. I know I said I drew the line in the sand, but the last few weeks have sucked. I admit I want to quit too. What is the point? I am having no success! But I know I cannot. This weekend I watched “UnSupersize Me” and this girl lost 200 pounds on a plant based diet. No I am not jumping on the craze diet deal, but I am going to challenge myself to eat wholesome foods most of the time. I am joining a Fall Challenge another blogger is doing and I am going to stick to it from today until the first day of Winter. We simply cannot stop trying.

Paula C

jen said...

Believe in yourself...and never give in.

MaryFran said...

Thank you for that information! I never thought of it that way! I know that I don’t lose if I eat too many complex I limit them to one serving a day. But maybe I need to limit a bit more...maybe my body changed a bit.

MaryFran said...

Thanks. I do limit my complex carbs and already ditched white bread...years ago. I do a 16:8 IF. Is there any benefit to go to 18:6???

MaryFran said...

I am planning on keeping it under control during our upcoming vacation. Until then I’m just researching and trying to figure out my game plan for the future and hanging tight!!!

MaryFran said...


MaryFran said...

I am in total agreement...the support and accountability is huge for me also!!!

MaryFran said...

I think we are twins!!!! We are definitely in step with this journey!!!! I am sorry to hear that you are still struggling. But I am so happy that you are not giving up! You (we) are too important to give up on!!!

MaryFran said...

Thanks!!! I needed you to remind me to believe in myself!!!

Mrs Swan said...

What if you are between test 2 and 3??? LOL

It is annoying AF- this whole journey! I am right there with you with this frustration! I too am feeling the wtf as I tracked but still gained ever so slowly. I feel like I a not losing unless I am doing OMAD with low calories. Every once and awhile that is fine but not for life.

MaryFran said...

I have never fallen into one category in I am probably a mix too. Lol

It is frustrating for sure!!!! But as discouraging as it is....continuing this journey and figuring this out is worth it in the long run!!!