Wednesday, September 05, 2018


I wrote  about fear the other week when I was getting ready to announce my book being published and available for purchase. I touched on the concept of fear, but I knew that I had to just get out and say what I needed to say about my book and I didn’t go into depth on the fear aspect. Since then I’ve had lots of thoughts on it and I thought it was time to share.

Fear is paralyzing. There is no other way to put it, it will stop you dead in your tracks. No matter what you think it is huge. When you allow your mind to buy into the fear and except it as a valid fear you are just feeding it. By feeding it, the fear grows bigger and bigger in your mind. Honestly, you have to get to the point of saying I’m not going to let this fear rule me and rule my decisions, my beliefs, thoughts and actions. You have to say, “I’m scared senseless but I am going to do it anyway.” You have to say, “damn the fears” and go full steam ahead.

With that said, Those fears that have paralyze me? The ones that I have faced? When I faced them, it turns out that those fears were silly!!!  I conquered them all like a champ and nothing bad happened!!  I was really proud of myself actually.   And...I was also chagrined to remember how huge these fears had become in my mind!  Seriously!!!

This mountain bike thing is one of those instances where fear threatens to overtake me. I’m afraid of hurting myself. I am not na├»ve enough to think that I’m never going to go down on one of these mountain bike trails… And by go down I mean wreck. Slowly though, I have noticed something. I will be out on a trail and well maybe not handling it like a champ, I am holding my own at least. But then I allow my fear overtake me. And that is the exact minute that the bike ride becomes difficult. That is the exact moment that I began to struggle with the ride!  The fear paralyzes me and convinces me that I can’t do it. No I’m not saying if I was fearless that I could handle every feature on a trail, quite the contrary I know my limitations. However, when the fear takes over in my mind it diminishes the skills that I do have.

Fear is a crazy thing. We all face here at one time or another. The question is this, are we going to push through and conquer or we going to shrivel up and let that fear BD hindrance that makes our life not as full and complete as it could be.


mxtodis123 said...

What you say is completely true, and I can identify with what you say about the mountain bike. For me, it is swimming. I fear being over my head. I have been able to swim since I was a little girl, but just let someone tell me the water is deep and over my head, and I automatically sink.

MaryFran said...

It’s crazy what our minds do to us...and how much power our minds really do have!!!

Anonymous said...

Thank you, I needed that.

jesseybell said...

I never could overcome the fear during Mountain Biking, so have reserved myself just to carriage roads and rail trails.

I can imagine that you must have had fear before publishing your book, but in reading it, I kept saying to myself that you had real guts! I would have had way too much fear to do everything you did. But you put yourself out there time and time again and you ended up with your Prince :)

MaryFran said...

Thanks. I never thought about my experiences in terms of being out there and bold!!!